Bad habits that bannish the love in a couple
I Live for You ... It is said that a perfect couple is made of 3 : you+her/him and the relationship itself. It is very romantic to say « we are one » but very selfish to say « we are two ». From the moment one of you, or even both, begin to be more concerned about yourself, frustration will sure arise from both sides. It seem so natural for you to give up your goals and desires, thinking that the sacrifice will be kindly appreciated and rewarded with feelings. He, on the other hand, concerned to positively respond to your efforts, will dramatically reduce the time spent with friends or away from you, and yes, this might seem that your relationship is getting closer to perfection but in fact, it goes on a downward slope. And, in time, frustration makes its way in your relation… Addiction Not like drugs addiction, but abandoning yourself gradually will make you dependent on your partner : you only rely on your partner for your whole existence. In other words, this means constant concerns in meeting partner’s desires, assuming his successes and concerns and last, living after his ideas and vision of life. But in a relationship, each partner needs some time for himself while carefully keeping our ideas and vision as ourselves, for a healthy and long relationship. Psychological « castration » Nowadays, more and more women find themselves occupying high position at their jobs while not all their partners being in the same boat. If they feel somehow inferior to their partners, men usually feel their masculinity threatened, and from here to a break there is only one single step. However, recent studies show that a significant number of men resign when facing this problem and somehow transfer their masculinity to their partners. Usually a woman with a high position in her career tens to expand her leadership qualities at home also : in the kitchen, in bed, with kids and so on ; in the end, her partner will burst and the negative aspects are not to be let aside. A compromise solution must be found, and this by all means does not translate into giving up a successfully career for partner’s sake. All that a woman has to do is finding a way to stay in the middle, in communication and in behavior terms. Couple censorship
Coming as well from the category « you count, I am nothing without you », here comes the frustration, anger and disagreements censorship. Let’s pretend one of the partners prefer sentiments’ implosion instead of sharing his anger ; communication in couple still exists, but it is reduced only to positive conversations.
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